Friday, 25 August 2017

THE TRASH BASH

Have you heard that really great joke about women? Yes, I am talking about whichever came to your mind. Funny, aren’t they? Stand up against one, and suddenly you’re a feminist- the most loathsome thing there is to exist out there. No, I am not saying there are no jokes about men. Of course, there are, just not as many as for women. Do you know how easy is it to set a man off? Say the three magical words, “fragile male ego” and boom, you’re golden. You could, of course, use the alternate three words and say, “men are trash” – the explosion effects are pretty much the same. And now that I have established quite the reputation of a feminist, hate to break it to you- but you’re wrong.

It’s dark ages. We are at war. You’re not doing social media right if you don’t indulge in one. It’s either men are trash or feminists are trash. It’s either the fragile male ego or stupid feminist thinking. I mean, come on? Why do they ask for gender equality when they can’t treat men the same way? They can’t stand in the bus, and they want to demand equal rights? For the love of God, they can’t even open the jar lid by themselves and they want their names put in with the jobs alongside men? Such dull-witted creatures they are, women. They are better suited in the kitchen, and can’t they just stick around their gossips? Their arguments are pointless anyway.

You know who else loves to shop? Men. Go on, call me a liar. Maybe they are not as indecisive as girls; maybe they don’t melt over the things they weren’t supposed to buy, maybe they don’t buy the things they surely didn’t need- THAT FOOTBALL JERSEY WAS IMPORTANT. Do you know whose mood is unpredictable as well? Men. You can set them off by something so little, you wouldn’t understand. You think all men make sense in arguments? Whatever lies get you through the night. Do you know who else likes to gossip? Men. Of course, they are not as such tattle tales and they have the bro-code so they don’t go stabbing their fellows in the back and plotting evil strategies, but don’t tell me they don’t gossip. Who do you think has spread all these things about women? Their gossiping, shopping, mood swings and on and on? MEN. But, of course, as long as it’s the truth- it shouldn’t be rendered gossip, right?

It is cool to say you hate everyone and there is a generalized understanding that exceptions are made even in that case, but not when a gender is involved. It’s stereotypical, it’s racist, it’s sexist. There is so much hate in this world. I haven’t seen as many feminists out there as much I have seen the haters of it, the anti-feminist club.

Women should not take offence of all the jokes because they are just jokes (with the hint of truth obviously). I mean, come on, where that sense of humor at? Laugh it off, be the laughing stock. Shouldn’t hurt your feelings, because seriously, girls- you know you can’t drive, you know you’re shopaholics, you know you are dull-witted, you don’t know your way around the car’s engine, you don’t know the specs when you buy your gadgets. You do betray men with all that make up, and you do look like a man because you don’t keep yourself groomed. No, I am not body shaming you; I am just saying you’re not curvy enough for my liking. Why do you complain about your weight? Nobody’s calling you fat, (well, not out loud, at least).

Am I a feminist? Well, if all men are trash is the new definition then I most certainly am not. I don’t hate men. I honestly find women more evil than men. I do envy the bro-code and the friendships boys have and damn, I love those side hugs. I know how it sounds. But see, I am not taking any sides. I don’t believe all men are horrible- I have seen otherwise. The world is a diverse place.

Here’s the thing- there is no such thing as gender equality. Genders were not created equal; the differences were created to complement each other. I believe there was a time when feminism meant for something. There was an agenda, not hatred. It’s not about gender equality, it’s about gender equity. It’s not the similar treatment, it’s the treatment deserved by each.

Tell you what, if you’re offended by something as pointless as a statement like fragile male ego- YOUR EGO IS FRAGILE. You’re not supposed to empty your seat for a girl if you don’t want to. You don’t do it because it’s a custom, you don’t hold a door for a woman to be a man, you do it because you are one, you do that because you’re a gentleman. And if you wanna go rub it in the faces, please don’t do it. And if you wanna question why that had to be the grounds for being a gentleman, again, don’t do it.

Not all men are same. I have seen men accepting the shortcomings of their gender. I have seen men being protectors just like I have seen women accepting their mistakes and apologizing (though once in a blue moon). I find it adorable that girls have to go ask boys to open up the lid, yes, because that’s complementing the shortcomings. If the male gender is blessed with greater physical strength than the female, there is no need to boast about it.

Enough with the stereotypes of the society, when are we gonna get past those? Stop bashing each other with labels. Crying is not for the weak, a man can cry and a man shall cry when he wants to. A girl can parallel park if she’s into driving. Stop being so obsessed with your narcissistic self. Get over yourself, there are a thousand better than you. Get out of that small little box in your head, learn to think beyond it. Don’t make a girl wish she were a boy, make her feel safe. Don’t plot your evil strategies to get the guy or his money; he did not earn it for you.

Everything is not a joke. Why is to so easy to label and bash women and joke about them? You know why women started asking for equality? LOOK AT HOW YOU TREAT YOUR WOMEN. They are not objects of your fascination. And most certainly, they aren’t your house-elves. They have desires that are often masked by the fragility of their own gender. If women had been treated the way they deserved to be treated, they wouldn’t rise up against men. They wouldn’t have to feel harassed enough to develop hatred. Joke about it when you know they have been treated the same. The whole lot of you, none of you would make it out sanely if put in their shoes. Joke about it when that little girl did not have to mask her desire because she was a female. Joke about it when that girl did not longingly wondered that she were a boy.

16 comments:

  1. Well i would kinda blame our nature for this. After observing things, we want to feel superior and nobody wants to feel inferior. People tend to go for easy target to feel superior like for example men go for women as their target to make themselves feel superior and women as part of being human don't want to feel inferior and stand up. ( same would apply if things would be opposite like in school where girls can be the bully ). Also there is no bro code and no need to envy us men for that. It's nothing but a lie and deception because everyone carve their own skin. The so called friends or bro would betray when you truly need them. People tend to get envious and its one of the worst disease. Well i could share so many things because i observe myself and people around me. Though i would definitely want to know how girls tend to feel and react to situations and reasons for it ( just for knowledge ) but the negativity these days. Anyway no gender is more evil than the other. I've definitely observed more girls wishing to be boys because of the society these days. There are so many things i can share. Anyway Sorry about all this. I'm sharing the facts I've learned and ideas.

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    1. There is no need to apologize and I am glad you mentioned that bro-code isn't what it seems to be. I just haven't seen many secret-spilling boys, maybe because I haven't met many. I would love to discover more. And basically, evil is in the nature of human. I just grew tired of all these feminists and anti-feminist wars over the social media and pointless arguments and jokes.

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    2. I hate these wars especially between the countries in sports or any other but i know the reasons behind the wars that are happening and some human nature. As long as the people think they are stronger than others, they will oppress others ( for pleasure, i have a theory on this but i need more data on it lol, pleasure may vary for every person) and cast them as weak and others deny that they are weak and the wars go on in many ways. Then there are those who want to be with the so called strong and climb their way from weaks (art of deception and manipulation techniques are used here). In the end we all are weak and same but nobody accepts that because they want to be one in million which leads to them thinking that they can do whatever they want and it goes on forever. Probably its basic surviving instinct since being leader of pack means you get all and do all. Anyway it is dumb but you should leave them as it is. It can be sad too at certain times and situations. Anyway i just love to gain knowledge about anything and everything and my curiosity leads the way. Well if you want to discover more then you should read "48 laws of power". It is a powerful book and maybe ugly for some people. Hoping you use it as positive and not for wrong purpose (you'll know what i mean when you finish it). Well also it's related to both genders. However, it does not certain parts of men that men do or why they do. ( which i discovered about myself and people around me ). Well there are more books too but if you get curious , I'll share them up. Personal experience too as part of research.

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  2. Yes, thank you. You write well.
    I'll put the book on the reading list.
    And yes, I second your opinion.
    P.S: I don't really know why you have to share your wisdom anonymously.

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    1. sorry about that. I'm pure introvert, anti-social, isolated person and i don't trust anyone. There are many reasons why many introverts like being anonymous e.g I'm not the only who reads your blog so revealing my identity and my ideas means I'm open which leads me to think i would become exploitable, for others it would be the "rejection". Rejection to their ideas would leave them to think they are being rejected, if anonymous and idea gets rejected it would still hurt them but but not much since people wouldn't know whose ideas is this. Many introverts are like this. There are more reasons too. I don't mind the rejection, i just hate being vulnerable. Anyway if you were to know who am i then I'm a/the (depends if i was the only one) person who told you to keep on writing blog a long time ago. well i don't mind sharing knowledge because i believe person who seeks knowledge, deserves it.

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    2. I am fairly positive not many people read my blog. As for the rejection, I wouldn't quite agree and that does not mean I am rejecting your opinion. I just think there a other ways to handle difference in opinion. I might write about it as I will about being an introvert. I have been meaning to, for a while. And okay, I might have a clue.

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  3. Well i probably estimated most introverts would be like this based on seeing two or more people. Anyway i guess everyone can be different based on environment. I would love reading it. It'll help me more in understanding people :)))

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  4. What's your point here? Are u offended by jokes about women or by the fact women are women and men are men. Just a simple question i have, if a strange boy comes to you and ask you something. Shall u talk to him like any other person in your cycle or shall you just excuse him??No one is sitting somewhere writing jokes about women they are mostly realities and someone personal experiences. Am not saying they are dumb but certainly they don't have that much exposure to everything around them as for a man and that's the reason there are not as much jokes about them. You might be using social media. How msny jokes you heard about a teacher or doctor or about some accountant?? Engineers are mostly targeted. They should organize a rally i guess in their defense right??? Women, So they do make silly pointless mistakes and that can take form of a joke.women are sensitive creatures and that's how God make them. Its in their nature. No need to fight against it.

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    1. Wow, seriously? Are you too blinded to see the realities? I am not siding with anyone here. I am sick of the feminism and anti-feminism wars going on. The point is, a limit, that apparently people tend to ignore. And the sensitivity is the reason I am talking about jokes here. I am not offended by anything but negligence.
      And as for your question about the random guy coming to talk to me, it all depends on the approach. What's the point?

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  5. which limits and what realities are you talking about??? there should be a limit while someone is making a joke??seriously?? will that be really a joke?? are you telling me that a woman's sensitivity is offended by the jokes??? c'mon jokes are jokes that what joke literally means to make fun.. it is just for fun thing... if someone can not neglect a joke then GOD helps her/him.
    Personally i think woman's sensitivty is more offended by no one else but herself. If she knows how to respect herself then everyone will. And being a narrow minded which you think of me after what am going to say just tell me what's the point of sitiing for a girl in a group of 6 or 7 boys?? "we are friends"?? let's face reality one of them is looking for a chance to propose her. One of them assuming is her real friend, Rest of them are staring her u don't want to know. I am a boy and i know they can scan a girl from hair to toe and then they can spend their whole day giving their analysis blah blah.... am not saying that woman should stay away from male friends or whoever she thinks they are but when you are applying limits on one thing that u think affects a woman's sensitivity then why not on others aspcets of life too or that will bound them from having fun???

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    1. There is a reason sense of humor is important. There is always a limit. You don't joke about everything. You don't joke about people's insecurities. If you're unable to understand that, I don't have to bother explaining.
      As for your pieces of advice, I quite understand those.

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  6. about that question.. Just seeking attention LOL

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  7. point out one joke that has crossed your level of "limits", and i shall capitulate.
    You don't owe me any explanation, but when you are blogging something you should have courage to listen others opinion. "One cannot be right all the time".

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    1. Oh, I listened to your opinion. Not my fault you felt I lacked the "courage". Honestly, you're stuck on one point literally ignoring the whole theme. And as for the point, you're still too negligent to see. And thanks again for letting me know something I already know. Try applying it your way too.

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    2. I hate to reply but @someone i feel like you got some negative view towards women. First LOOK AT OUR SOCIETY. Do we even treat women equally? They usually don't go outside the house until college/university(hanging out). Unlike we boys have the freedom to go out whenever we want and where ever want. Don't you think they would want the same? Also about women sensitivity, I BLAME THIS FRICKEN SHITTY( no offence) SOCIETY. Well what if the world was the other way around? What if girls and boys swap their places. Now imagine getting we will see girls with personality of boys and boys with personality of girls and why would be that? Because we have the SAME BRAIN ORGAN. Now to the point of girls sitting with 7 group of boys. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANT , KEEP YOUR EYES AND MIND TO YOUR SELF IF YOU CAN'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Now this is the proud moment. You just pointed out that boys can be disgusting which we are because we can't control our stupid thoughts. So then your a boy. Be proud to be among the disgusting, pathetic males of humanity.
      (Sorry i may have gone a bit far and lost too lol)

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    3. Thank you for this step. Well written.

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